castiel-counts-deans-freckles:

This is like a round of cards against humanity

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Black parenting is often too authoritative. White parenting is often too permissive. Both need to change.

In college, I once found myself on the D.C. metro with one of my favorite professors. As we were riding, a young white child began to climb on the seats and hang from the bars of the train. His mother never moved to restrain him. But I began to see the very familiar, strained looks of disdain and dismay on the countenances of the mostly black passengers. They exchanged eye contact with one another, dispositions tight with annoyance at the audacity of this white child, but mostly at the refusal of his mother to act as a disciplinarian. I, too, was appalled. I thought, if that were my child, I would snatch him down and tell him to sit his little behind in a seat immediately. My professor took the opportunity to teach: ‘Do you see how this child feels the prerogative to roam freely in this train, unhindered by rules or regulations or propriety?’

'Yes,' I nodded. “What kinds of messages do you think are being communicated to him right now about how he should move through the world?”

And I began to understand, quite starkly, in that moment, the freedom that white children have to see the world as a place that they can explore, a place in which they can sit, or stand, or climb at will. The world, they are learning, is theirs for the taking.

Then I thought about what it means to parent a black child, any black child, in similar circumstances. I think of the swiftness with which a black mother would have ushered her child into a seat, with firm looks and not a little a scolding, the implied if unspoken threat of either a grounding or a whupping, if her request were not immediately met with compliance. So much is wrapped up in that moment: a desire to demonstrate that one’s black child is well-behaved, non-threatening, well-trained. Disciplined. I think of the centuries of imminent fear that have shaped and contoured African-American working-class cultures of discipline, the sternness of our mothers’ and grandmothers’ looks, the firmness of the belts and switches applied to our hind parts, the rhythmic, loving, painful scoldings accompanying spankings as if the messages could be imprinted on our bodies with a sure and swift and repetitive show of force.

I think with fond memories of the big tree that grew in my grandmother’s yard, with branches that were the perfect size for switches. I hear her booming and shrill voice now, commanding, “Go and pick a switch.” I laugh when I remember that she cut that tree down once we were all past the age of switches.

And then I turn to Adrian Peterson. Not even a year ago, Peterson’s 2-year-old son, whom he did not know, was murdered by his son’s mother’s boyfriend. More recently, Adrian Peterson has been charged with negligent injury to a child, for hitting his 4-year-old son with a switch, in a disciplinary episode that left the child with bruises and open cuts on his hands, legs, buttocks and scrotum.

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gigaguess:

robregal:

This is the proper reaction.

You can see the internal “Do I call him an idiot, or do I keep getting paid…?”

  • sister: people in their 30s own houses and have 401ks and discuss stock options with their accountant. I can't be one of them yet!
  • me: last year I wikihowed how to do taxes
  • sister: I wikihowed how long I can go without paying taxes before the government comes after me
  • me: how long you got?
  • sister: another few months at least

nebachanezar:

The real plot line of 30 Rock.

mechinaries:

the next song on their playlist is Anaconda and you bet your ass they know every single lyric

mechinaries:

the next song on their playlist is Anaconda and you bet your ass they know every single lyric

thecultofcraze:

amoureuux:

oh

That’s okay, I didn’t need my heart.

thecultofcraze:

amoureuux:

oh

That’s okay, I didn’t need my heart.

fashiondestruction92:

FALL 2014 READY-TO-WEAR CHROMAT

fashiondestruction92:

FALL 2014 READY-TO-WEAR CHROMAT

rejennerate:

My favorite thing about feminism is that you literally only have to say the word and BOOM done, men will literally prove your point FOR you

buzzfeed:

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sunflowereyes7747:

runs-on-ramen:

necessary:

he needs those parts for his space ship

he’s going to otter space

Wtf

sunflowereyes7747:

runs-on-ramen:

necessary:

he needs those parts for his space ship

he’s going to otter space

Wtf

inorheona:

Team Not-Dead ftw

inorheona:

Team Not-Dead ftw

noteenshame:

“We live in a culture that constantly reminds young moms that their lives are over, that their children are mistakes, and that they have futureless predetermined destinies. Why are we surprised when those feelings are internalized?” - Marylouise Kuti-Schubert
READ THE FULL BLOG POST ON THE PUSHBACK!

noteenshame:

We live in a culture that constantly reminds young moms that their lives are over, that their children are mistakes, and that they have futureless predetermined destinies. Why are we surprised when those feelings are internalized?” - Marylouise Kuti-Schubert

READ THE FULL BLOG POST ON THE PUSHBACK!

wishmaker7:

birdghost:

irl-spain:

sentimentalslut:

people say ‘I love you’ in a lot of different ways

'eat something'

'buckle up'

'get some sleep'

'here have my fries'

'Im gonna draw you something'

'yeah i'll buy it for you'